Welcome to The Heart of It
A space for real conversations about healing, connection, and the human experience. Whether you’re navigating relationships, grief, burnout, or the everyday ups and downs of life, this blog is here to support you with warmth, insight, and compassion.
Written by CHR founder and therapist Jane, these reflections are shared from the heart - grounded in her work with individuals and couples, and in the deeply human experiences we all navigate. Jane’s hope is that you feel seen in these words, and reminded that whatever you’re carrying, you don’t have to carry it alone.
Rebuilding yourself after heartbreak: What helps, What hurts, and how to heal with intention
Heartbreak can feel like losing your sense of self. This therapist-backed guide explores what actually helps, what holds you back, and how to heal with intention, so you can rebuild, not just recover.
How to spot red flags when dating: A Therapist’s guide to trusting what you see
It’s easy to miss red flags when dating - especially when emotions are high and chemistry is strong. This therapist-backed guide helps you identify early warning signs, trust your gut, and make choices that protect your emotional wellbeing.
How to reconnect: After disconnection in a relationship
Disconnection happens in every relationship, but it doesn’t have to mean the end of closeness. Learn how to recognise the signs and take simple, intentional steps to reconnect emotionally and rebuild intimacy.
How to practice self-compassion: A therapist’s guide to being kinder to yourself
Self-compassion isn’t just a feel-good buzzword, it’s a powerful tool for emotional resilience, especially in relationships. In this post, we explore what self-compassion really looks like and how to begin treating yourself with the same care you offer others.
Healing after narcissistic abuse: What you need to know and how to begin recovery
Healing after narcissistic abuse is not about getting over it - it’s about finding your way back to yourself. This blog explores what narcissistic abuse really is, why recovery is so complex, and how you can begin to rebuild your sense of safety, identity, and self-worth.
Supporting your partner through grief: What helps, what hurts, and how to stay connected
When someone you love is grieving, it can feel hard to know what to say or do. This blog explores how to support a partner through grief with compassion, patience, and presence - without losing connection in the process.
Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Conflict Resolution in Relationships
Conflict doesn’t have to mean disconnection. This blog explores how Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps couples move beyond reactive arguments to deeper understanding, healing, and closeness.
How do I find my identity outside of being a Mum?
Motherhood can be beautiful, and all-consuming. But what happens when you realise you've lost touch with the person you were before kids? This post gently explores how to reconnect with your identity, without guilt, and with deep self-compassion.