Welcome to The Heart of It
A space for real conversations about healing, connection, and the human experience. Whether you’re navigating relationships, grief, burnout, or the everyday ups and downs of life, this blog is here to support you with warmth, insight, and compassion.
Written by CHR founder and therapist Jane, these reflections are shared from the heart - grounded in her work with individuals and couples, and in the deeply human experiences we all navigate. Jane’s hope is that you feel seen in these words, and reminded that whatever you’re carrying, you don’t have to carry it alone.
How to reconnect: After disconnection in a relationship
Disconnection happens in every relationship, but it doesn’t have to mean the end of closeness. Learn how to recognise the signs and take simple, intentional steps to reconnect emotionally and rebuild intimacy.
Navigating grief as a couple after the loss of a child
Grief after losing a child is unlike any other. It affects each partner in their own way—and it affects the relationship too. This post offers support for couples navigating heartbreak together, with tools to grieve side by side while honouring your own process.
From Fracture to Foundation: Can a Relationship Survive Betrayal?
Can a relationship truly recover after betrayal? In this post, we explore the emotional weight of broken trust, what it takes to rebuild, and how couples can decide—together—whether to heal, move forward, or let go with compassion.
When love meets addiction: Staying connected through recovery
Loving someone through addiction can feel like a rollercoaster of hope, fear, and exhaustion. This post offers practical steps for supporting your partner while protecting your own wellbeing. Learn how to set boundaries, navigate codependency, and rebuild trust, without losing yourself in the process.
Keeping the Spark Alive: Staying Connected After Kids
Feeling more like co-parents than partners? You’re not alone. Parenthood changes everything - including your relationship. In this post, we explore simple, meaningful ways to stay emotionally and physically connected amidst the chaos of family life. With a little intention and a lot of compassion, the spark doesn’t have to fade.
Love in the shadows: Supporting your partner through mental health struggles
Supporting a partner through mental health challenges can feel overwhelming, lonely, and confusing. In this post, we explore how to hold space with empathy, communicate with care, and honour your own needs along the way. Whether it’s anxiety, depression, or something in between, you don’t have to navigate it alone.
When trust breaks: How to rebuild after betrayal in a relationship
When trust is broken, it can feel like the ground beneath you has disappeared. Whether the betrayal was emotional, physical, or a fracture in honesty, the pain runs deep. But healing is possible. In this post, we explore how couples can begin to rebuild trust, reconnect emotionally, and decide together, whether they want to move forward. It’s not an easy path, but it can lead to something deeper, stronger, and more honest than before.